I don’t know the specific moment I realised that life isn’t always going to be perfect but I do know that when I accepted this, things got that little bit sweeter.
Have you ever not done something for fear of getting hurt, in an emotional sense that is? Do you wrap yourself up in cotton wool and hold your heart close to you for fear of it getting stamped on? Perhaps you’ve had a bad experience with friends in the past that have let you down or a partner that strayed, maybe even a family member that took off without a moment’s thought to you or your feelings. If we really think about it we have probably all been a victim of emotional heartbreak at one point or another.
As human beings it is in our nature to crave love and friendship and when we give a little of ourselves away to people and they abuse this, it hurts. It hurts a lot! It creates room for all of this negative self-doubt “Why did they leave? What did I do wrong? Was I not good enough?” And no matter how much we try to convince ourselves that it wasn’t us and it’s their loss, the sensitive part in us can’t simply switch off the sadness we have been left with and so we have no choice but to ride it out until eventually the feeling passes.
So it’s no wonder we are quick to say never again and to want to hide away inside of ourselves. Why would anyone want to take the risk of ever feeling like that again?
But let me ask you this; how do we know how good something really is if we haven’t experienced the bad? How can we truly live in the present moment and enjoy what we have if we don’t open ourselves up to be vulnerable? We can’t have it both ways, simply picking which emotion to feel and we can’t move forward in life if previous experiences hold us back. We all have our demons, our fears, our concerns, our self-battles but this also means that we have the best parts of all these things should we decide to confront them. Choose to shut yourself off from the possibility of new friendship or love and well, you may as well shut yourself off from everything all together.
Sometimes we have to be a little bit wreck less with our hearts and take a risk. And it may not always work out but that’s ok, mistakes are there to be made as long as we learn from them. I’m all for planning and playing things safe on occasion but sometimes things won’t pan out how you expect them to and you just have to roll with it.
Two years ago a guy I thought was the one made a decision that caused the end of our relationship and I was devastated. I loved him and he made me feel inadequate in a matter of seconds. Fast forward to now and I owe him a thank you. He was right for me then but not now; we are worlds apart as people. Because of him I made the decision to go out into the world in search of something more and I found it. I made a new life for myself and became a stronger person because of it. I took a risk and I got comfortable with doing the uncomfortable and it paid off. The bad made the good and the good feels so much more wonderful because of this. Now I can look back and appreciate what we had for what it was and my memories are fond ones. He wasn’t a nasty person; he just made a bad decision.
There is always going to be upset, pain, confusion, fear and times of hardship in our lives but its how we choose to deal with it that makes us. We can hide away from potential heartache or we can embrace it and everything else wonderful that comes with it.
I know which I prefer…
This Pecan Princess 